Peggy Bolcoa, LMFT, PhD specializes in relationship psychotherapy (with individuals, couples and families) and maintains a private practice in Costa Mesa, California.
Hello, I’m Peggy Bolcoa, LMFT, Ph.D., with over two decades of hands-on experience, having trained at Wake Forest University and Chapman University. Passionate about mending and fortifying relationships, I specialize in Emotionally Focused Therapy, a proven method that delves into the unseen emotions and intentions couples often overlook. My expertise lies in decoding complex attachment styles and guiding couples—whether dating, contemplating marriage, or already wed—to foster secure and enriching bonds. Whether I’m working with one partner or both, the goal remains: to strengthen the relationship from its very core. I take pride in simplifying intricate scientific concepts, making them accessible to all. It’s an honor to share my insights and reflections on the content of this platform, aiming to enlighten and empower every reader. (Please see the blog I wrote on this subject: What if your spouse doesn’t want to go to therapy?).
In addition to my clinical work, I contribute to thedatingvibes.com, offering research-based advice to help readers navigate modern relationships with confidence. From understanding emotional signals to improving communication and handling digital interactions, my writing focuses on bridging the gap between psychological theory and real-world dating challenges. I believe relationships thrive when people truly understand each other, and my articles aim to equip readers with the tools they need to build deeper, healthier connections.
When people come in for relationship therapy, we are often (additionally) dealing with depression, anxiety, grief/loss, adultery/betrayal, stage of life issues, addiction and many other issues that can have a direct bearing on your relationship. Sometimes it may seem like “the perfect storm” of problems, however, rest assured we will deal with all of them. Please be encouraged when I say that I’ve seen seemingly impossible situations become relationships that are loving, safe, and intimate.
Treatment Approach
The treatment model I have found to be most helpful is the Emotionally Focused Treatment (EFT) approach. In using this approach, I am practical, interactive, and nonjudgmental. Using EFT I will provide support and guidance to help you resolve current cycles and long standing patterns. This model allows me to treat every client or couple very specifically and the people I work with come to love this EFT therapy.
In the interest of transparency, I want to say that while I’m licensed by the State of California and adhere to its guidelines, I have been a Christian since I was 10 years old.
That said, I do not impose my beliefs on anyone and I only include spirituality as clients request. I have embraced, worked with and cared for people of all faiths and walks of life.
Professional Activities & Memberships:
- License, MFT 28920
- The Stan Peterson Award
- Clinical Director of The South Coast Center for Personal and Psychological Growth
- A member of The California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists for 20 years (in good standing).
- National Honor Society in Psychology (the Psi Chi Chapter at Chapmen College)
